Do You Have Post Traumatic Dating Stress?

Do You Have Post Traumatic Dating Stress?

Not to make light of real PTSD here...but many of us feel like we've been through some traumatic dating experiences that can leave us a little shell shocked. To know how to trust again, consider this. 

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Intimacy: NOT a four letter word

Intimacy: NOT a four letter word

Intimacy. In-to-me-see. It can be daunting to open our hearts to a stranger as we grow into a relationship and allow our truth to rise to the surface. We risk rejection, but we risk it for the possibility that instead of rejection, we will be loved for who we are...Perfectly imperfect. 

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Top 5 Love Connector Dating Mistakes

Top 5 Love Connector Dating Mistakes

Love Connectors have a strong need for intimacy, connection, and reassurance in a relationship. Their brains are wired to keep a partner close and they often find themselves pursuing partners who want more distance in their relationships, like the intimacy avoiding Love Resister. There are 5 common dating mistakes that Love Connectors make. Can you relate?

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Namaste Dating

Namaste Dating

Imagine my fantasy with me for a minute…I like to call it namaste dating.

“Namaste” simply translates into this: the divine in me honors the divine in you.

Wouldn’t dating be easier if we just focused on looking deep into each other’s souls and greeted each other out of pure connection, truth, and curiosity? Wouldn’t it be easier if we honored the divine in each other?

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Are You A Shape Shifter?

Are You A Shape Shifter?

Do you tend to lose your identity when you’re in a relationship? When we fall in love, its easy to lose who we are. This is especially true for those of you who are Love Connectors (who have an anxious attachment) or struggle with low self-esteem. 

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Intuitive Dating: Lean In

Intuitive Dating: Lean In

I was recently in a brief relationship with someone where I kept hearing the whispers of intuition. Many years ago, I would have ignored them for all of the reasons mentioned above. I know better now. Instead, I listened. I used the whisper as a barometer and a guide. The more I listened, and gave it room to breathe, the louder it spoke to me. 

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How To Trust Your Intuition In Love

How To Trust Your Intuition In Love

Are you ignoring your intuition? There’s nothing worse than going through a breakup and realizing that the nagging voice in the back of your head that had been warning you all along was actually right about this person.  Hindsight… yes, it is 20/20.

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How to Heal A Heartbreak

How to Heal A Heartbreak

As a psychotherapist for over 20 years, I have witnessed a lot of heartbreak. I have had the unique experience to go “behind the scenes” and observe how we, as human beings, experience pain, joy, and every emotion in between. 

But somehow, with all of my so called therapist “expertise”, I was stuck when it came to healing my own broken heart. And, as a card-carrying member of the tribe of humanity, I have been no stranger to the raw, gut wrenching feelings of heartbreak. 

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Dance With Fear

Dance With Fear

Making yourself vulnerable with a complete stranger has got to be one of the craziest things we do as humans. Yet we do it because it has the possibility of leading us into a loving relationship (and most of us want that more than anything). The fear created in dating or a new relationship can play out in many ways. We may avoid, overcompensate, ignore, or be ruled by it. Resisting fear in any of these ways only creates more fear and anxiety.  The key to overcoming fear is to dance with it. Invite it in, make friends, stop resisting. 

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trust your gut, not your head

trust your gut, not your head

Falling in love with someone is one of the most powerful feelings we can experience as humans.  You know the feeling…everything feels right in the world. You feel happy, at ease, excited, and relaxed. Your literally high on chemicals that your brain is releasing to help you attach to a partner. However, that warm, happy feeling can sometimes blind us to relationship red flags and get us into something that isn’t healthy. How can you tell if your love high is preventing you from seeing the red flags in a partner? 

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