We all know the sting of rejection. Even those with the strongest sense of self-esteem can be hurt by its bite.
Rejection makes us shrink, hide, and basically beat ourselves up with stories about what’s wrong with us. Insecurities known and unknown can raise their ugly heads and wreak havoc on your self-esteem.
If you have a fear of rejection, you’re likely creating some powerful blocks to finding love. Rejection can keep you in miserable relationships, and it can prevent you from taking risks to be yourself. When you hide yourself, it makes it difficult, if not impossible, for the right partner to find you, see you in your genuine, authentic truth, and ultimately love you.
The good news is, there is a cure for the pain of rejection.
The pain is created by your story about your so called “rejection” and it likely sounds something like this:
I’m not good enough.
I’m not pretty enough.
No one will love me.
It will break my heart if I get rejected.
I’m not smart enough, successful enough, sexy enough, skinny enough, outgoing enough… (enter your own “ not enough” here).
This is the thing… You don’t have control over whether someone rejects you or not. But, you ALWAYS have a choice to create a different story about the experience.
The cure for your rejection is to, quite simply, change the story you’re telling yourself.
You may still feel the burn, but you can lessen the damage by seeing it anyway you want to see it. This may seem difficult. In all honesty, it can take some practice, because most of us have been telling ourselves the same negative stories for decades. We truly believe the stories we tell, and confuse them for facts. But there is great power in this cure. It works.
Your new story about a so called “rejection” could be something like this:
Thank you, Universe, for clearing the way for my true love.
Just because someone failed to recognize my worth doesn’t mean I’m unworthy.
I know that I am awesome, amazing, worthy, etc. This is his or her loss.
Next. (just moving on to the next possibility for love).
Your story does not have to be about you and how you aren’t enough. Someone else’s choice to not like you, date you, marry you, befriend you does not have to mean that something is wrong with you. It can simply be that there is a difference of opinion. It can mean that someone is simply failing to see your worth. It’s their loss. Your gain. Simple.
And what a gift to free up the space in your life for the person who will eventually come along and see your worth… Now, that’s a story worth telling.
What’s your story going to be?
*Article originally published on Digital Romance, Inc. by Chelli Pumphrey