The modern dating world can test the confidence of a superhero. It takes strength to put yourself out there with the hope of being swiped, liked, and winked at by that perfect partner. When you’re waiting for the approval, you self-worth can take a dive.
The problem is that most people date with one question running through their minds:
Will this person like, love, or accept me?
This type of thinking can leave you feeling disempowered and anxious. Now, of course it takes mutual approval for a relationship to take off. But, if you want to increase your dating confidence and keep your self-worth high, there’s a simple shift you can make in your thinking.
The power lies in asking yourself some better questions. Why is this? Because better questions provide better answers. Try shifting your questions to something like this:
Is this person capable of loving me and meeting my needs?
Is this person worthy of my love and attention?
The key is to empower yourself as a conscious chooser of your future partner. The bottom line is that you get to choose who you will allow into your life and into your heart.
Do you struggle with believing you’re worthy of love?
We are all human. We are all perfectly imperfect. Embracing who you are, and having the courage to be seen by a partner is one of the most fulfilling aspects of a relationship. It’s important to know who you are, and what you want and need in a partner. You must see that your needs and desires are important, and even more important is finding a partner who is capable of meeting your specific needs and desires.
Do you often get stuck in a mindset of scarcity, believing that there’s no one better out there, this is as good as it gets, or the good ones aren’t for you?
The truth is, there are over 7.5 billion people on this planet, which means there is an abundance of possibilities in love. When you shift your thinking to an abundance focus, its easier to date with the goal of looking for someone who is capable of meeting your needs.
Shifting your thinking to a more empowered state and trusting that there are many potential partners for you to choose from then you will feel less vulnerable and anxious about waiting for that perfect partner to choose you. You get to choose. Use this gift!
The key is to know what you want and need in a partner, and not to settle. There are infinite possibilities for love for everyone. Stop waiting and become the chooser, not the chosen.