The catch-22 of an anxious attachment

The catch-22 of an anxious attachment

Have you ever hid your needs, your desires, or your personality because you're afraid you'll be too much for someone and push them away?  Or, on the other hand, have you ever felt like you're not good enough for someone?  I'm guessing that Love Connectors will relate to this dynamic in particular, although many of us have likely experienced this feeling in our relationships. 

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The 3 Levels Of Learning To Love Ourselves

The 3 Levels Of Learning To Love Ourselves

If you are one of the many people who struggle with self-esteem and not feeling good enough for others, this article is for you. I’ve learned in my work as a therapist that there are three levels of healing that we must do in order to truly learn how to love and accept ourselves. 

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To Love Or Not To Be Loved...That Is The Question

To Love Or Not To Be Loved...That Is The Question

If we are going to feel pain in love, or without love, then why not take a chance and muster through love?  We can live in a cave and fear love the rest of our lives. Here, we feel no love. 

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Do You Have Post Traumatic Dating Stress?

Do You Have Post Traumatic Dating Stress?

Not to make light of real PTSD here...but many of us feel like we've been through some traumatic dating experiences that can leave us a little shell shocked. To know how to trust again, consider this. 

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Intimacy: NOT a four letter word

Intimacy: NOT a four letter word

Intimacy. In-to-me-see. It can be daunting to open our hearts to a stranger as we grow into a relationship and allow our truth to rise to the surface. We risk rejection, but we risk it for the possibility that instead of rejection, we will be loved for who we are...Perfectly imperfect. 

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Namaste Dating

Namaste Dating

Imagine my fantasy with me for a minute…I like to call it namaste dating.

“Namaste” simply translates into this: the divine in me honors the divine in you.

Wouldn’t dating be easier if we just focused on looking deep into each other’s souls and greeted each other out of pure connection, truth, and curiosity? Wouldn’t it be easier if we honored the divine in each other?

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Intuitive Dating: Lean In

Intuitive Dating: Lean In

I was recently in a brief relationship with someone where I kept hearing the whispers of intuition. Many years ago, I would have ignored them for all of the reasons mentioned above. I know better now. Instead, I listened. I used the whisper as a barometer and a guide. The more I listened, and gave it room to breathe, the louder it spoke to me. 

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How To Trust Your Intuition In Love

How To Trust Your Intuition In Love

Are you ignoring your intuition? There’s nothing worse than going through a breakup and realizing that the nagging voice in the back of your head that had been warning you all along was actually right about this person.  Hindsight… yes, it is 20/20.

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How to Heal A Heartbreak

How to Heal A Heartbreak

As a psychotherapist for over 20 years, I have witnessed a lot of heartbreak. I have had the unique experience to go “behind the scenes” and observe how we, as human beings, experience pain, joy, and every emotion in between. 

But somehow, with all of my so called therapist “expertise”, I was stuck when it came to healing my own broken heart. And, as a card-carrying member of the tribe of humanity, I have been no stranger to the raw, gut wrenching feelings of heartbreak. 

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Dance With Fear

Dance With Fear

Making yourself vulnerable with a complete stranger has got to be one of the craziest things we do as humans. Yet we do it because it has the possibility of leading us into a loving relationship (and most of us want that more than anything). The fear created in dating or a new relationship can play out in many ways. We may avoid, overcompensate, ignore, or be ruled by it. Resisting fear in any of these ways only creates more fear and anxiety.  The key to overcoming fear is to dance with it. Invite it in, make friends, stop resisting. 

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