The catch-22 of an anxious attachment

The catch-22 of an anxious attachment

Have you ever hid your needs, your desires, or your personality because you're afraid you'll be too much for someone and push them away?  Or, on the other hand, have you ever felt like you're not good enough for someone?  I'm guessing that Love Connectors will relate to this dynamic in particular, although many of us have likely experienced this feeling in our relationships. 

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Do You Have Post Traumatic Dating Stress?

Do You Have Post Traumatic Dating Stress?

Not to make light of real PTSD here...but many of us feel like we've been through some traumatic dating experiences that can leave us a little shell shocked. To know how to trust again, consider this. 

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Namaste Dating

Namaste Dating

Imagine my fantasy with me for a minute…I like to call it namaste dating.

“Namaste” simply translates into this: the divine in me honors the divine in you.

Wouldn’t dating be easier if we just focused on looking deep into each other’s souls and greeted each other out of pure connection, truth, and curiosity? Wouldn’t it be easier if we honored the divine in each other?

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Are You A Shape Shifter?

Are You A Shape Shifter?

Do you tend to lose your identity when you’re in a relationship? When we fall in love, its easy to lose who we are. This is especially true for those of you who are Love Connectors (who have an anxious attachment) or struggle with low self-esteem. 

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Intuitive Dating: Lean In

Intuitive Dating: Lean In

I was recently in a brief relationship with someone where I kept hearing the whispers of intuition. Many years ago, I would have ignored them for all of the reasons mentioned above. I know better now. Instead, I listened. I used the whisper as a barometer and a guide. The more I listened, and gave it room to breathe, the louder it spoke to me. 

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How To Trust Your Intuition In Love

How To Trust Your Intuition In Love

Are you ignoring your intuition? There’s nothing worse than going through a breakup and realizing that the nagging voice in the back of your head that had been warning you all along was actually right about this person.  Hindsight… yes, it is 20/20.

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How to Heal A Heartbreak

How to Heal A Heartbreak

As a psychotherapist for over 20 years, I have witnessed a lot of heartbreak. I have had the unique experience to go “behind the scenes” and observe how we, as human beings, experience pain, joy, and every emotion in between. 

But somehow, with all of my so called therapist “expertise”, I was stuck when it came to healing my own broken heart. And, as a card-carrying member of the tribe of humanity, I have been no stranger to the raw, gut wrenching feelings of heartbreak. 

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Dance With Fear

Dance With Fear

Making yourself vulnerable with a complete stranger has got to be one of the craziest things we do as humans. Yet we do it because it has the possibility of leading us into a loving relationship (and most of us want that more than anything). The fear created in dating or a new relationship can play out in many ways. We may avoid, overcompensate, ignore, or be ruled by it. Resisting fear in any of these ways only creates more fear and anxiety.  The key to overcoming fear is to dance with it. Invite it in, make friends, stop resisting. 

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Why I Couldn't Find The ONE

Why I Couldn't Find The ONE

If you're wondering why you haven't found the ONE yet, it might be time to take a look within. We are mirrors, and the Universe has a way of reflecting back to us exactly what's going on inside. Here's my story about how I was preventing the One from finding me. 

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How to Stop Hiding and Get Real.

How to Stop Hiding and Get Real.

There seems to be an instinct to go deeper, and to look within ourselves, and to look deeper within each other. All of us are aching to be seen, yet many of us are terrified of being seen because we fear judgment, exposure, and vulnerability. I call bullshit on this. How about you? It's time to get real and stop hiding. 

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The Value Of A Purple Heart

The Value Of A Purple Heart

Being a Love Strategist, it only seemed appropriate that I steer away from the usual dating and relationship advice this week and focus on the biggest love and relationship problem we are currently experiencing in our country. With a deeply divided nation, it seems like we are farther apart than ever. Today we are all in need of some love.

Before you swear allegiance to your party, your leader, your values, and your beliefs, please hear me out. I’m speaking to you, Red. I’m speaking to you, Blue. I’m speaking to ALL of you. Maybe its time we become a little more purple. 

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