The catch-22 of an anxious attachment

The catch-22 of an anxious attachment

Have you ever hid your needs, your desires, or your personality because you're afraid you'll be too much for someone and push them away?  Or, on the other hand, have you ever felt like you're not good enough for someone?  I'm guessing that Love Connectors will relate to this dynamic in particular, although many of us have likely experienced this feeling in our relationships. 

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Intimacy: NOT a four letter word

Intimacy: NOT a four letter word

Intimacy. In-to-me-see. It can be daunting to open our hearts to a stranger as we grow into a relationship and allow our truth to rise to the surface. We risk rejection, but we risk it for the possibility that instead of rejection, we will be loved for who we are...Perfectly imperfect. 

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Are You A Shape Shifter?

Are You A Shape Shifter?

Do you tend to lose your identity when you’re in a relationship? When we fall in love, its easy to lose who we are. This is especially true for those of you who are Love Connectors (who have an anxious attachment) or struggle with low self-esteem. 

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Dance With Fear

Dance With Fear

Making yourself vulnerable with a complete stranger has got to be one of the craziest things we do as humans. Yet we do it because it has the possibility of leading us into a loving relationship (and most of us want that more than anything). The fear created in dating or a new relationship can play out in many ways. We may avoid, overcompensate, ignore, or be ruled by it. Resisting fear in any of these ways only creates more fear and anxiety.  The key to overcoming fear is to dance with it. Invite it in, make friends, stop resisting. 

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Why Giving Up On Finding Love Is The Worst Decision You Can Make

Why Giving Up On Finding Love Is The Worst Decision You Can Make

For those of you who are done with dating, listen up. Dating can be hard. If we were meant to be living alone in isolation for the rest of our lives, the dating industry wouldn’t be making billions of dollars on people who are searching for love. So let’s admit it.

We want love. We need love. 

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How to Stop Hiding and Get Real.

How to Stop Hiding and Get Real.

There seems to be an instinct to go deeper, and to look within ourselves, and to look deeper within each other. All of us are aching to be seen, yet many of us are terrified of being seen because we fear judgment, exposure, and vulnerability. I call bullshit on this. How about you? It's time to get real and stop hiding. 

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What Is A Conscious Relationship?

What Is A Conscious Relationship?

We want fulfillment. We want relationships that last. The problem is that many of us struggle with knowing how to find and create relationships that fulfill us on the deepest levels, and we get stuck in unconscious relationships. Instead, wouldn't it be nice to create a conscious relationship?

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The CRUCIAL Dating Mindset You Must Have

The CRUCIAL Dating Mindset You Must Have

Most people can’t stand the vulnerability of dating. Exposing who you are to complete strangers, with the hope or fear that someone will approve of you can be incredibly stressful, even for those with healthy self-esteem.  

The problem is that most people go through the dating process being guided by the underlying question of “will this person like, love, or accept me?”

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