The catch-22 of an anxious attachment

The catch-22 of an anxious attachment

Have you ever hid your needs, your desires, or your personality because you're afraid you'll be too much for someone and push them away?  Or, on the other hand, have you ever felt like you're not good enough for someone?  I'm guessing that Love Connectors will relate to this dynamic in particular, although many of us have likely experienced this feeling in our relationships. 

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The 3 Levels Of Learning To Love Ourselves

The 3 Levels Of Learning To Love Ourselves

If you are one of the many people who struggle with self-esteem and not feeling good enough for others, this article is for you. I’ve learned in my work as a therapist that there are three levels of healing that we must do in order to truly learn how to love and accept ourselves. 

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The Confusion Of The Love Paralyzer

The Confusion Of The Love Paralyzer

If you are a Love Paralyzer, you may not understand why it feels so difficult to find love. And if you’ve ever knowingly or unknowingly dated a Love Paralyzer, you may feel incredibly confused by the swift pulling away that they can do in a developing relationship. 

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To Love Or Not To Be Loved...That Is The Question

To Love Or Not To Be Loved...That Is The Question

If we are going to feel pain in love, or without love, then why not take a chance and muster through love?  We can live in a cave and fear love the rest of our lives. Here, we feel no love. 

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Namaste Dating

Namaste Dating

Imagine my fantasy with me for a minute…I like to call it namaste dating.

“Namaste” simply translates into this: the divine in me honors the divine in you.

Wouldn’t dating be easier if we just focused on looking deep into each other’s souls and greeted each other out of pure connection, truth, and curiosity? Wouldn’t it be easier if we honored the divine in each other?

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Are You A Shape Shifter?

Are You A Shape Shifter?

Do you tend to lose your identity when you’re in a relationship? When we fall in love, its easy to lose who we are. This is especially true for those of you who are Love Connectors (who have an anxious attachment) or struggle with low self-esteem. 

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How To Trust Your Intuition In Love

How To Trust Your Intuition In Love

Are you ignoring your intuition? There’s nothing worse than going through a breakup and realizing that the nagging voice in the back of your head that had been warning you all along was actually right about this person.  Hindsight… yes, it is 20/20.

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How to Heal A Heartbreak

How to Heal A Heartbreak

As a psychotherapist for over 20 years, I have witnessed a lot of heartbreak. I have had the unique experience to go “behind the scenes” and observe how we, as human beings, experience pain, joy, and every emotion in between. 

But somehow, with all of my so called therapist “expertise”, I was stuck when it came to healing my own broken heart. And, as a card-carrying member of the tribe of humanity, I have been no stranger to the raw, gut wrenching feelings of heartbreak. 

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This Mindset Shift Will Bring You Love

This Mindset Shift Will Bring You Love

Our modern, online dating world seems to be a a virtual buffet of choice and possibility. We click through profiles, swipe through our phones, and we’re presented with hundreds of potential dates at any given moment. The dating world seems ripe with opportunity on the surface, but deep down inside, you’re wondering if this abundance of love is for everyone but you.  

Making this shift in your mindset is crucial to your dating success.

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Why Giving Up On Finding Love Is The Worst Decision You Can Make

Why Giving Up On Finding Love Is The Worst Decision You Can Make

For those of you who are done with dating, listen up. Dating can be hard. If we were meant to be living alone in isolation for the rest of our lives, the dating industry wouldn’t be making billions of dollars on people who are searching for love. So let’s admit it.

We want love. We need love. 

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How to Stop Hiding and Get Real.

How to Stop Hiding and Get Real.

There seems to be an instinct to go deeper, and to look within ourselves, and to look deeper within each other. All of us are aching to be seen, yet many of us are terrified of being seen because we fear judgment, exposure, and vulnerability. I call bullshit on this. How about you? It's time to get real and stop hiding. 

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What Is A Conscious Relationship?

What Is A Conscious Relationship?

We want fulfillment. We want relationships that last. The problem is that many of us struggle with knowing how to find and create relationships that fulfill us on the deepest levels, and we get stuck in unconscious relationships. Instead, wouldn't it be nice to create a conscious relationship?

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The Value Of A Purple Heart

The Value Of A Purple Heart

Being a Love Strategist, it only seemed appropriate that I steer away from the usual dating and relationship advice this week and focus on the biggest love and relationship problem we are currently experiencing in our country. With a deeply divided nation, it seems like we are farther apart than ever. Today we are all in need of some love.

Before you swear allegiance to your party, your leader, your values, and your beliefs, please hear me out. I’m speaking to you, Red. I’m speaking to you, Blue. I’m speaking to ALL of you. Maybe its time we become a little more purple. 

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