If you’re caught in the anxious trap of wondering if you should text someone, STOP now.
Here’s why: You have the answer.Read More
Do you tend to lose your identity when you’re in a relationship? When we fall in love, its easy to lose who we are. This is especially true for those of you who are Love Connectors (who have an anxious attachment) or struggle with low self-esteem.Read More
I was recently in a brief relationship with someone where I kept hearing the whispers of intuition. Many years ago, I would have ignored them for all of the reasons mentioned above. I know better now. Instead, I listened. I used the whisper as a barometer and a guide. The more I listened, and gave it room to breathe, the louder it spoke to me.Read More
Are you ignoring your intuition? There’s nothing worse than going through a breakup and realizing that the nagging voice in the back of your head that had been warning you all along was actually right about this person. Hindsight… yes, it is 20/20.Read More
As a psychotherapist for over 20 years, I have witnessed a lot of heartbreak. I have had the unique experience to go “behind the scenes” and observe how we, as human beings, experience pain, joy, and every emotion in between.
But somehow, with all of my so called therapist “expertise”, I was stuck when it came to healing my own broken heart. And, as a card-carrying member of the tribe of humanity, I have been no stranger to the raw, gut wrenching feelings of heartbreak.Read More
Making yourself vulnerable with a complete stranger has got to be one of the craziest things we do as humans. Yet we do it because it has the possibility of leading us into a loving relationship (and most of us want that more than anything). The fear created in dating or a new relationship can play out in many ways. We may avoid, overcompensate, ignore, or be ruled by it. Resisting fear in any of these ways only creates more fear and anxiety. The key to overcoming fear is to dance with it. Invite it in, make friends, stop resisting.Read More
Falling in love with someone is one of the most powerful feelings we can experience as humans. You know the feeling…everything feels right in the world. You feel happy, at ease, excited, and relaxed. Your literally high on chemicals that your brain is releasing to help you attach to a partner. However, that warm, happy feeling can sometimes blind us to relationship red flags and get us into something that isn’t healthy. How can you tell if your love high is preventing you from seeing the red flags in a partner?Read More
Our modern, online dating world seems to be a a virtual buffet of choice and possibility. We click through profiles, swipe through our phones, and we’re presented with hundreds of potential dates at any given moment. The dating world seems ripe with opportunity on the surface, but deep down inside, you’re wondering if this abundance of love is for everyone but you.
Making this shift in your mindset is crucial to your dating success.Read More
If you're wondering why you haven't found the ONE yet, it might be time to take a look within. We are mirrors, and the Universe has a way of reflecting back to us exactly what's going on inside. Here's my story about how I was preventing the One from finding me.Read More
For those of you who are done with dating, listen up. Dating can be hard. If we were meant to be living alone in isolation for the rest of our lives, the dating industry wouldn’t be making billions of dollars on people who are searching for love. So let’s admit it.
There seems to be an instinct to go deeper, and to look within ourselves, and to look deeper within each other. All of us are aching to be seen, yet many of us are terrified of being seen because we fear judgment, exposure, and vulnerability. I call bullshit on this. How about you? It's time to get real and stop hiding.Read More
We want fulfillment. We want relationships that last. The problem is that many of us struggle with knowing how to find and create relationships that fulfill us on the deepest levels, and we get stuck in unconscious relationships. Instead, wouldn't it be nice to create a conscious relationship?Read More
Being a Love Strategist, it only seemed appropriate that I steer away from the usual dating and relationship advice this week and focus on the biggest love and relationship problem we are currently experiencing in our country. With a deeply divided nation, it seems like we are farther apart than ever. Today we are all in need of some love.
Before you swear allegiance to your party, your leader, your values, and your beliefs, please hear me out. I’m speaking to you, Red. I’m speaking to you, Blue. I’m speaking to ALL of you. Maybe its time we become a little more purple.Read More
Have you ever had the experience of being completely preoccupied with thoughts of a partner or date to the point that you can’t think about anything else?
Do you ever feel panicked after a date, wondering if you’ll get a text?
Do you sometimes pull away from a partner in dramatic ways (trying to make them jealous or chase after you) even though you secretly want them to chase you?
The answer could be in your Love Style.Read More
The heart expands with every moment of love and acceptance, and it contracts when it’s bruised with hurt. But it is never truly broken. It becomes stronger every time we allow ourselves to surrender, and push it wide open to its expansive edges.
Chelli Pumphrey is a Love Strategist, here to help you become more authentic, brave, and confident in your journey to finding a fulfilling, love-filled relationship. Using the latest information about brain science and attachment, she teaches her clients how their brains are wired to love, so that they can understand why they do what they do when it comes to love and dating.
Listen to Chelli on her weekly talk show, Destination Love, on the Voice America Talk Radio Network. Shows air live every Wednesday from 10-11am (mountain time), and can also be downloaded here or on iTunes to listen at any time.
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