The Anxious-Avoidant Dance
/Do you know the anxious-avoidant dance? You'll want to avoid this at all costs.
Read MoreDo you know the anxious-avoidant dance? You'll want to avoid this at all costs.
Read MoreThe problem is that most people date with one question running through their minds:
Will this person like, love, or accept me?
Read MoreWithout confidence, self-esteem, and courage, online dating can be a blow to the ego at times. How do you survive in the trenches? There are three simple tips to help keep your confidence high, and your heart and mind open.
Read MoreNot to make light of real PTSD here...but many of us feel like we've been through some traumatic dating experiences that can leave us a little shell shocked. To know how to trust again, consider this.
Read MoreIntimacy. In-to-me-see. It can be daunting to open our hearts to a stranger as we grow into a relationship and allow our truth to rise to the surface. We risk rejection, but we risk it for the possibility that instead of rejection, we will be loved for who we are...Perfectly imperfect.
Read MoreHave you ever had the feeling that you are too much for a partner, and then in the same breath, you feel like you’re not enough? You're not alone. This is actually a thing!
Read MoreLove Connectors have a strong need for intimacy, connection, and reassurance in a relationship. Their brains are wired to keep a partner close and they often find themselves pursuing partners who want more distance in their relationships, like the intimacy avoiding Love Resister. There are 5 common dating mistakes that Love Connectors make. Can you relate?
Read MoreThere are three essential ingredients that can help you survive heartbreak, disappointment, and loss.
Read MoreImagine my fantasy with me for a minute…I like to call it namaste dating.
“Namaste” simply translates into this: the divine in me honors the divine in you.
Wouldn’t dating be easier if we just focused on looking deep into each other’s souls and greeted each other out of pure connection, truth, and curiosity? Wouldn’t it be easier if we honored the divine in each other?
Read MoreIf you’re caught in the anxious trap of wondering if you should text someone, STOP now.
Here’s why: You have the answer.
Read MoreDo you tend to lose your identity when you’re in a relationship? When we fall in love, its easy to lose who we are. This is especially true for those of you who are Love Connectors (who have an anxious attachment) or struggle with low self-esteem.
Read MoreI was recently in a brief relationship with someone where I kept hearing the whispers of intuition. Many years ago, I would have ignored them for all of the reasons mentioned above. I know better now. Instead, I listened. I used the whisper as a barometer and a guide. The more I listened, and gave it room to breathe, the louder it spoke to me.
Read MoreMaking yourself vulnerable with a complete stranger has got to be one of the craziest things we do as humans. Yet we do it because it has the possibility of leading us into a loving relationship (and most of us want that more than anything). The fear created in dating or a new relationship can play out in many ways. We may avoid, overcompensate, ignore, or be ruled by it. Resisting fear in any of these ways only creates more fear and anxiety. The key to overcoming fear is to dance with it. Invite it in, make friends, stop resisting.
Read MoreOur modern, online dating world seems to be a a virtual buffet of choice and possibility. We click through profiles, swipe through our phones, and we’re presented with hundreds of potential dates at any given moment. The dating world seems ripe with opportunity on the surface, but deep down inside, you’re wondering if this abundance of love is for everyone but you.
Making this shift in your mindset is crucial to your dating success.
Read MoreFor those of you who are done with dating, listen up. Dating can be hard. If we were meant to be living alone in isolation for the rest of our lives, the dating industry wouldn’t be making billions of dollars on people who are searching for love. So let’s admit it.
If you’re looking for a long term relationship in the online world, I’ve got some bad news and some good news.
Read MoreWhy I'm a Love Strategist and NOT a Dating Coach.
Read MoreHave you ever felt the shame of being too vulnerable?
Read MoreChelli Pumphrey is a Love Strategist, here to help you become more authentic, brave, and confident in your journey to finding a fulfilling, love-filled relationship. Using the latest information about brain science and attachment, she teaches her clients how their brains are wired to love, so that they can understand why they do what they do when it comes to love and dating.
Listen to Chelli on her weekly talk show, Destination Love, on the Voice America Talk Radio Network. Shows air live every Wednesday from 10-11am (mountain time), and can also be downloaded here or on iTunes to listen at any time.
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